Each exam honest, to the demands of a life of value, contains elements of self-honesty. We can not expect to live a life that makes sense if we are not able to be honest with ourselves. The challenge with self-honesty is you have to be able to be calm in order to challenge assumptions and truths that guide our daily experience, which are usually considered.
Anyone can learn to sit and listen quietly to life. We do not make for several reasons:
1) We are addicted to noise input continuum of life. We believe we need continuous encouragement to feel alive.
2) We fear that we are not “doing” something when we sat in silence. Somehow we have been conditioned to believe that life is worth living is the life in which we are always doing something.
3) Finally, we are afraid to be alone with our mind calm. We do not like the person we are with, when we are alone or not we like what we hear when we are the only one talking.
Listen to the words of Toni Packer about sitting in silence: “It’s easy to listen in silence, however, is not easy, because there is a huge boost from the habit of creating stimulation through fantasy.” ~ Toni Packer
Live, move and have their being in a field of constant or fantasy outside noise inside, no room for quiet contemplation. This realm of tranquility is absolutely essential if we are ever to open to the possibility of change. Consider the words of Ramon Panikkar: “Contemplation is the activity that puts us in an open space from which we can observe and contribute throughout the universe ..” ~ Ramon Panikkar
Contemplation, sitting in the quiet and become the observer, creates a hole in our hearts and heads of ideas on how we can contribute to life. We participate with the Universe by the co-creation of life and the planet we can bless or simply exist, to be victims of a life out of control. If we create the space for active participation in life, we must learn to sit in the quiet.
For those who are contemplating virtually impossible, I offer the following five tips:
1) Be open to the possibility of sitting in the quiet worthwhile.
2) Accept that this will take some time and patience. Like any activity that is worth sitting in the quiet takes practice. It is a talent that is available immediately, at least for most people.
3) Get comfortable. While many meditation teachers insist that proper posture improves outcomes, I invite you to do this practice enjoyable. The longer we wait, the more likely you are to stick with it until you begin to change your life.
4) Do not try to stop or otherwise control their thoughts. You have no power over the thoughts that will appear. You have the power over the thoughts that will invest in, what thoughts will give you power.
5) Become the observer of your thoughts. Realize that you are not your thoughts. They do not run it or define you. You are able to decide what thoughts get care and who are allowed to get up and go through without energy.
Practice being quiet at least once a day. Early morning and late evening are the best, despite the threat of falling asleep is the greatest right now. Falling asleep causes no harm, it just means that you were very friendly and relaxed. Over time you will stay awake and you will start to notice you are able to spend more and more time in the moments of silence between thoughts endless. As an extension of the gap, so does her freedom. I’ll write more about this later.
Being silent is the quickest way to find / remember who you are and why you are here. It is the best investment of your time, regardless of what your mind chatter insists. Give it a try. Resist nothing. Learn from everything.