I found a painful lump under my right arm last week , so I did what any coach would do, intelligent , mother of four , which is the teaching of self-care. I ignored
My business is one of self- love. Fitness, yoga, meditation , eating clean – my daily practice includes not only honor me with the healthy action , but I expect these non-negotiable to thousands of people who follow me online. Do not mess with what’s going on in my body , why did freeze and do nothing when I found something that should not have been there?
The simple answer is fear , which gives the simple question , ” what was I afraid of? ” Maybe it’s obvious , and I was just afraid of being sick . Maybe I was afraid of change that would lead to a disease.
Whatever the fear
was , it was certainly doing its job . And I was completely paralyzed into inaction . I have not given my lump courtesy of a doodle on my list of things to do .
I become more articulate and convincing when I’m making empty promises to myself. “I promise that I will take care of the nodule , as soon as I finish my email in the morning .” “Another load of laundry and call your doctor. ” ” I’m imagining the lump because I’m stressed out about X, Y and Z. ” ” I’m not wasting my time on an imaginary disease , because I do not want to face my responsibility.” I said that I was convincing myself . I realize that this sounds like a load of crap to everyone reading this .
The issue here is not urgent because was not doing a medical examination , which is did not do . We can leave the s why for another day , because I know there are a lot of you out there who have done the same thing. They ignored obvious warning signs from your body because you were too busy , too embarrassed, too strong or too scared to give them any attention . Maybe you’re doing right now , and this is perfect! Why now is the perfect time to get out.
All my years of practice in self-consciousness that they have stopped being stupid or irresponsible or simply loving to myself from time to time , but it taught me to recognize my own stupidity as ( or shortly after ) is going on. This is a gift . My conscience has allowed me to create systems to save me from myself and my platform has provided a way for me to share my tools anti- stupidity with my closest friends online.
Please be assured that I use the ” word ” stupid with love and compassion. It should be commonly held meaning for us to love ourselves , and all the worldly trappings and ideas that are in our heads and in our hearts we were ignorant to that love.
things that have happened to us and the false ideas that are buried in our psyche, we did stupid – . separated from the love and irrelevant to our intuition
In my quest to be less stupid and more of what God wanted me to be , I called the help of lists, and friends to keep me on track to become a core purpose – met ( and body).
In this particular case of me ignoring my solution , I pulled out the playbook and used my 3 things to do when you’re too afraid to call the doctor :
# 1: . Call two friends
Imagine that your group of friends. Then categorize their most important traits of personality – the most fun, the most serious , the boss , the treasure … Who is the bully of the group? This should not be a friend of the media, just a friend who gets what he wants when he wants , and nobody wants it ( and sometimes perhaps a bit ‘ scary about it ) . When it comes to this friend, listen , why do not you just a little ‘ fear, she is very smart . So think of your sweet friend . Who are just shy of Holiness save stray animals and would never judge for what ‘s really funny (but still secret ) did that night with the unknown … in that bathroom . All this will do it for you ( even with homemade soup when you are sick or help you reduce your ex face off each photo after breaking the heart) , and could never say no to her.
You are lucky to have these two as friends. Call them . Tell him that you think that something is wrong and you have not made an appointment . Then, go about your business. They will either bully or guilt in making an appointment and then continue to follow-up (read: pressure , hound , harass ) with you until you check with your results. If this is the only step of the three you do, you’ll be on your way to the doctor ( and recovery) in no time.
This is an actual text from one of my friends on the morning of my mammogram :
“In order to remain calm, if all this nonsense yoga do not work, you have to imagine myself standing next to you to make wildly inappropriate comments – . In a dress prom ”
This is the same friend who convinced me to talk to my midwife when I was in denial of having post-partum depression after the birth of my fourth child. In this case , you saved my life.
# 2: Do not Google .
All your fears are about the unknown.
You might think that the best way to solve this problem is to stop not know and do some research on the internet for symptoms . I can not tell you how bad the ‘ idea is this. After obtaining an opinion from the first and second and maybe third from healthcare professionals trusted by all means to improve themselves doing the research and become an advocate for their care. DO NOT start playing the “Internet private eye ” , after finding a mole looks funny on his back. Here’s an example of why : just for fun , like the ” ass cancer ” into a search engine and see what happens. For even more dramatic results , click on the images . I’m sorry, but this is where I need to practice a little ‘ tough love .
Googling will not get from the doctor . That will give you a false sense of security , he is convinced that there is nothing wrong , or it will go into a spiral of anxiety and panic with photographs incredibly graphic and a certainty that you will die from that cut card absolutely infectious.
Self- diagnosis by search engine : always a bad idea. I do not think I need to say it again.
# 3: . Be Here Now
I am a teacher of meditation, then you should have seen this coming . Speculate about future events or results not help at this time. You may be worried . May be afraid . Whatever it takes to pick up the phone and call your doctor is probably related to some fortuneteller you try on your own. And for the same reason to be negative for the future will not help , forcing yourself to be probably will not do much good for you either . The truth is that you do not know what’s ahead , and that’s totally OK. You do not have to know. The only thing required of you at this time is to keep breathing and taking small steps to get to where you need to be : sitting in the doctor’s office.
This is a moment that it’s okay for you to get on the Internet. Find a meditation or yoga class locally. Write a blog and stop just before you press the publish button if you are not ready to share. (Which is what I did ) . You’ve already done the super smart and paid attention to my first two points, then now is the time to be right now . You do not have to pretend not to be afraid . Find a quiet place to sit with your fears. Breathe and collect every single concern in the lungs. Exhale and let them float in space.
If you find yourself overwhelmed with thoughts and mental chatter , or repeating a mantra silently or aloud .
“I’m here . ‘m Sure . ‘m In perfect health. ”
“I am loved. ‘ve Been created with the intention of God . Healing is on the way . ”
Now go take care of yourself . I love you!