In the long term, the simple questions that you ask yourself on a regular basis will determine the kind of person you’ve become.
“Today, I miss who I was. I miss the girl had something to be proud of. I miss the girl who was really happy in your own skin. I miss the girl who was innocent and free, and I thought to herself. I miss the girl you want to look in the mirror and do not see any flaws.’m missing the girl who did not leave the negative words of others to worry about. I turned to make everyone else like me. But now I do not like me. I miss what I was. ”
This is the opening paragraph for a long, heartfelt e-mail I received yesterday from a reader named Lori. Your e-mail goes, inadvertently, almost a dozen counter-questions that she is asked regularly – questions that I know for sure that she is not trying to describe.
Breeds negativity is not often the answers we receive from this world, but for questions we ask ourselves every day. As Lori, if you ask negative questions, you will get a negative feedback. There are no positive answers to:
“Why not me?”
“What happens if I’m not good enough?” etc.
Think about it. It would be someone else to make the questions demoralizing, sometimes you wonder? I doubt it. So, stop and exchanged for questions that go in a positive direction.
Here are some ideas to get started …
What could be positive about and grateful for now, if you really wanted? – The greatest weapon against stress and negativity is the ability to choose one thought over another. The happiness flees from those who refuse to see the good in what they have. When life gives you every reason to be negative, positive thinking.
What is a problem that you’re grateful that you did not? – Smile now; not because life was easy, perfect, or exactly as he had expected, but because you choose to be happy and grateful for all the good things you have and all the problems that you do not know.
What you hold in that you need to let go? – Often taking actually makes us weaker, and let go, it builds our strength. If that thing was extremely upset six months ago, or last year, now? I bet it does not. And if you’re still thinking about it, does not serve the best interest.
Who or what needs your forgiveness? – Forgiveness does not always lead to heal relationships and situations. Some situations and relationships are not meant to be. However, forgive and let it be what it meant, BE. Go ahead and released. When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or the status of an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get rid of.
What is the right thing to do? – Just because you can, does not mean you should. Just because it’s easy does not mean it’s worth it. Do what is right, what is not easy. It’s a lot less stressful way to live.
What is something nice you can do for someone else now? – Not all the good you can, to as many people as possible, as often as possible. No act of love and kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. Good vibes always come back.
What compliments received lately? -Remember, butterflies do not know the color of their wings, but human eyes know how beautiful they are. Similarly, hurry up your days busy, you probably do not realize how great you are, but others close to see you’re still awesome. When someone says something nice for you, it is worth remembering.
What do you know that you’re great at? – Although it is nice to hear people compliment you, it is not essential to your self-esteem. And if you do not offer to give you a compliment, give yourself one. Are you well enough, smart enough and strong enough. You do not need other people will be validated every minute; You are precious! Note: your strengths, focus on them and celebrate.
What would you do differently if you knew that no one sees you? – The truth, you can not please everyone and you should not try. Less interested in what they say they hate each other and smile more on what you know is true. Live your life and be happy with themselves, without their negative reviews. Practice hear compliments and constructive criticism and ignoring the insults and negativity. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it to work.
What activities will help you feel more like you? – In other words, to understand what motivates them to grow in your most authentic self. And remember that you can not grow if you are not willing to change. But as you grow, you will notice that it does not change much … just becomes who you are.
What gets you excited about life? – I think … If you wanted to be really excited now, what could get excited about? Find and focus on it more often. When you really believe in what you’re doing, shows and worth it. Success in life is for those who are excited about where they are going.
What you have to stop making excuses? – Once as George Washington said: “It is better to offer no excuse for evil.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. If you are good at making excuses, you’ll never be good for anything else. No matter what obstacles are what you see in front of you, the only thing really standing between you and what you want is an excuse to keep repeating that because he can not reach it.
If you learn from your mistakes, why are you always so afraid of making a mistake? – If you want to do it right, make a lot of mistakes and accept a great deal of discomfort along the way. It may sound crazy, but it’s worth it. In life, mistakes make you smarter and hardship makes you stronger. Both are necessary growing pains.
When was the unexpected better than what you expected? – When something goes wrong in your life, just yell, “Plot Twist” and then do your best to adapt. You will not get where you want to go in life, but in the end you get exactly where you should be.
What we now know better for next time? – Do not let the fear of past events affect the outcome of your future. Living for today has to offer, not what yesterday has taken away. There will always be obstacles, but there are often confined by walls that we build ourselves. What we see depends on how you look at it. Forget what you’ve lost and focus on what you have learned.
What is the next best step forward from here? – Any unwelcome event, person or situation is really just a door next to you. A stronger, wiser.
What is valuable in this period? – One step forward, but do not rush. Do not waste the time of life are now, simply because you want the next one to start. There is always the beauty waiting to be realized. Note the goodness that is happening around you now, even if you have to look a bit ‘more than usual.
When was the last time you noticed the sound of your breath? – Relax. Enough. Do you have enough. You do enough. Extra deep breath, let go and live right now in this moment.
You need to spend less time with? – There are more than 7 billion people in the world right now. Do not let a handful of negative ones to ruin your happiness. No, you can choose every person you meet in life, but you can choose who you spend your time. So be thankful for the people who walk into your life and make it better, but also be thankful for the freedom to walk away from those who do not.
How are the latest rejections insignificant messed with your self-confidence? – Do not leave old refuses to take up permanent residence in your head. Kicking off the road. Realize that sometimes you have to try to do what you think you can not do, in order to realize that it is actually possible. And sometimes it takes more than one attempt. If it does not work ‘Plan A’, do not worry; the alphabet has 25 more letters would be happy to give you a chance to get it right. The choices usually lead us to the right place, at the end. You just have to believe in their potential to get there.
Life is full of unanswered questions, but has the courage to ask enough of the right ones that ultimately leads to an understanding of yourself and your purpose.
You can spend your life wallowing in fear to avoid the obvious questions, or negative, asking “Why me?” Or you can be thankful that you have done up to this point – you are strong enough to breathe, walk and think to yourself – “where do I go next” and then ask,
Your turn …
What am I missing? What questions do you have to start asking is encouraging? Leave us a comment below and let us know.