People wiser, more loving, well-rounded, probably you’ve never met are those who have known the misery, known defeat, known the heartbreak of losing something or someone that you loved and found their way from the depths of their despair. These people have experienced many ups and downs and have gained an appreciation, sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, understanding and a deep wisdom of love. People like this are not born; develop slowly over time.
Angelo and I have worked with thousands of these amazing people over the last ten years, both online and offline, through various forms of coaching. In many cases, they came to make us feel stuck and lost, unaware of their brilliance, blind to the fact that their struggles have strengthened them and given them an upper hand in this crazy world.
The truth, when it hit hard times and the challenges you face are great, or you can leave your situation themselves, let them destroy you or allow to be strengthened. The choice is yours.
In today’s article I want to remind you of some powerful but easily forgotten truth that will help you choose wisely and strengthen even through the most difficult times …
1. Pain is part of life and love, and help you grow.
So many of us are afraid of ourselves, of our truth and our feelings more than any other. We talk about how great are the concepts of life and love, but then we hide from both every day. Hide our true feelings. Because the truth is the life and love hurts at times, and the feelings that this brings disturb us.
We are taught at an early age that all pain is bad and harmful. Yet, how can you deal with John weaver true love and real life, if we are afraid to hear what you really feel? We need to feel the pain, just as we need to feel alive and loved. Pain is meant to wake up. Still trying to hide our pain. To obtain this result. Pain is something to carry, just as common sense. Because you can learn just how strong you are when being strong is the only choice you have.
It ‘s all about how to take things that do not go your way. This is what counts in the end. Pain is a feeling. The feelings are a part of you – your reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you’re letting insecurity is destroy your reality. You should defend your right to feel pain – I could bare it – owning your scars – to face the reality of life and love, as you grow into stronger, wiser, truer version of yourself.
2. Mentality is half the battle.
It ‘good to have days and hard times. The life expectancy to be wonderful all the time who want to swim in the ocean where the waves just get up and never crash. However, when it recognizes that the rising and crashing waves are the exact same part of the ocean, you are able to let go and be at peace with the reality of these ups and downs. It ‘clear that the life plans require downs of life.
In other words, life is not perfect, but it’s definitely good. Our goal should not be to create a perfect life, but to live a life of radical amazement imperfect. To get up every morning and take a good look around so that nothing is taken for granted. Everything is extraordinary. Every day is a gift. Never deal with ease. And ‘somehow spiritual to be amazed in every way.
Do not let the pain of the situation you are hopeless. Do not let the negativity disappear on you. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Although others may disagree with you, proud of the fact that you know even the world as a beautiful place. Change your thinking and change reality.
And the mentality is especially powerful when it comes to accepting that …
3. Reality there are your greatest fears.
When times are tough, it can be hard to follow your heart and take another step, but it is a tragedy that fear lies stop. Even if fear can be confusing and defeats more people than any other force in the world, is not as strong as it seems. Fear is only as deep as your mind. You’re still in control. Then take control!
The key is to recognize the fear and deal with it directly. Fight hard to shine the light of your words on it. Because if you do not, if your fear becomes a wordless darkness, avoid dark and perhaps even manage to forget briefly, you open yourself to further attacks of fear when you least expect it. Why never really tackled the opponent who defeated you.
Can you beat the fear if you do. Be brave! And remember that courage does not mean you will not be afraid; courage means not let fear stop you from moving forward with your life.
4. Which are growing through the experience.
Over time you will find that life is not necessarily an easier or more difficult than you thought it would be; It ‘s just that easy and hard are not exactly as she had expected, and does not always happen when you expect it. This is not a bad thing; makes life interesting. Always with a positive attitude you will be pleasantly surprised.
When you stop to things a certain way of being on hold, can be enjoyed for what they are. At the end you will realize that the greatest gifts in life are rarely wrapped as expected.
Experience is what you get when plans do not go as planned and the experience is the most valuable asset you own – to build up your strength.
You have the power to transform the wounds and worries wisdom; You just have to do something for them. You have to accept what happened and use what you’ve learned to take a step forward. Everything you’ve lived gave you more to deal with anything that has yet to experience. Realize this and set yourself free.
5.’s Not possible to change situations that do not take responsibility.
Sigmund Freud once said, “Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.” Do not let this be you. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – we give power over that part of your life.
Make no mistake, in the end, the price of the liability is happiness. As soon as you stop doing everything and everything else responsible for your happiness, the happier you will be. If you are not satisfied now, it is someone else’s fault.
Happiness is ultimately self confidence – your unwavering will to take responsibility for your life from this moment forward, regardless of whether they had a hand in making sure that it is now. It is about taking control of our present circumstances, think for themselves and make a consistent choice to choose otherwise. It gets to be the hero in your life, not the victim.
6. This really is having to deal with.
Life is not lived in some distant land, dreamed of a day when everything is perfect. He lived here and now, with the reality of things as they are. Yes, by all means you can work towards an idealized future. But to do so, you must properly address the world today.
Sometimes we avoid experiencing exactly where we are because we have developed a belief, based on past experience, that is not where we should be or want to be. But the truth is, where you are now is exactly where you need to be to get where you want to go tomorrow. So appreciate where you are.
Friends and relatives are too good to be ignored. Take a moment to remember how lucky you are breathing. Take a look around, honestly eyes open before you. Much of what you fear does not exist. Much of what you love is closer than you think. You’re just a thought away from fast to understand the blessing that is your life.
Happiness is a mindset that can be designed only in the present. It is not a point in the future, or a time in the past; Yet, sadly, this ambiguity hurts the masses. Many young people seem to think that all their happiness awaits you in the years to come, while many older people believe that their best moments are behind them. Do not be one of them. Do not let the past steal your present future.
7. There is always, always, always something to be thankful for.
Life is better when you smile. Be positive in a bad situation, it is not naive; It ‘a sign of strength and leadership. You’re doing it right when you have so much to cry and complain, but you prefer to smile and enjoy your life instead.
What if you woke up tomorrow with only the things they were grateful for today?
Think of all the beauty that is around you, and see him smile. Be thankful for all the little things in your life, because when you put them all together, you will see that are just as significant. At the end of the day, it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratitude that makes us happy.
8. Great things take time.
Immediate results are rarely the best results. With patience, you can significantly expand your potential. If your wishes have always been satisfied once, there would be nothing to look forward to. You want to lose the joys of anticipation and progress.
Remember, patience is not on hold; is the ability to keep a good attitude while you work hard for what you believe. It will stay focused focuses confidently one small step at a time, knowing how to move a mountain moving one stone at a time. Each stone that moves, no matter how small, is progress.
Bottom line: worth more than mere gratification. Value comes in an instant often went in an instant. Value that takes time and effort to create often survive its creator – to you.
9. Other people can not accept.
When we are struggling to achieve something important, sometimes look to others to validate our progress. But the truth is, it can not …
You’re not in this world to live up to the expectations of others, nor should you feel that others are here to live up to your. Open your own path. This means that what happened to each of us is totally different. Success is ultimately happy to spend your life in your own way.
You do not need to be flashy to be awesome. You do not have to be famous to be meaningful. You do not have to be a celebrity to be successful. You do not need to be validated by anyone else. You are precious. You just need to believe in yourself and what you want to achieve.
It can be humble and still be incredibly effective. Just because people do not fall at your feet and you will like it, does not mean you’re a failure. Quiet success is just as sweet as strong success, the flamboyant and usually much more real. The success is how to define, not what anyone else says it must be for you.
10.’re Not alone.
In the midst of hard times, it is easy to look around and see a lot of people who seem to do well. But I’m not. We are all struggling in our own way. And if we can be brave enough to be open about it and talk to each other, you would realize that we are not alone in feeling lost and alone.
Many of us are fighting the same battle at his side. We are all in the same boat. So, no matter how embarrassed or pathetic you feel about your situation, I know there are others out there experiencing the same emotions. When you hear: “I am alone,” the mind is only concerned about trying to sell a lie. There is always someone who can relate to. Maybe you can talk directly to them, but they are out there.
If you feel desperate at this moment, I feel often feel and think and fight a lot, like you. I am interested in many of the things that interest you, but in my own way. And even if some people do not understand us, we understood each other. You are not alone!
One of the greatest gifts of life is the fact that life is difficult. Why dealing with the difficulties of life, build strength. This strength allows us to successfully achieve our aims deeper, more meaningful. And ‘because life is hard, we can do great things. And ‘because life is hard that we were able to overcome the difficulties. We can make a difference and we can really matter.
So remember this …
When times are tough, you have to be tougher. Do not pray for an easy life; Pray for the strength to bear a disk that leads to the magnitude.
Your turn …
What have you learned that helped you get through tough times? What truths to keep in mind to motivate yourself? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts.