Be brave. Say what you have to say. When you do not talk, there’s a lot of important stuff that ends up not getting said.
About a decade ago, my colleague was killed in a car accident on the way home from work. During his funeral, many people were in tears Office, saying things like: “I liked it. We all loved him so much. Was a wonderful person.” Of course, I started crying too. But I could not help but wonder if these people had been told that they loved him, while he was alive, or if it was only with the death of this powerful word, “love” was used without any doubt or hesitation.
I swore to myself then and there that I would never hesitate to talk to the people involved and remind them how much you appreciate them. They deserve to know that give meaning to my life. They deserve to know that I think the world of them.
But this alarm clock has taught me something even bigger than that. Not only will teach me to talk to others, and taught me to talk too much to me about my attitude, my self respect, my dreams, and so on. Why is the hard truth, you never know. We never know when everything will change. When will be a great opportunity. When we assume that everything will be removed. We do not know when it will be too late.
Do not let this depressing fact let motivate you. Let me go tell what you meant all along to others and to themselves …
“I love you.” – Love knows that it is rarely own depth until it is taken away. So do not wait. If someone appreciates today, tell them. If you love someone today, show them. Hearts are often confused and broken by words left unspoken facts and thoughtful loving, left unfinished. It might not be a tomorrow. Today is the day to express your love and admiration.
“Thank you.” – For my 17th birthday, many moons ago, my grandfather on my mother gave me four flannel shirts used that did not need. The shirts were just worn and in immaculate condition and my grandfather told me that he thought that would look great on me. Unfortunately, I thought they were a strange gift at that time and I was grateful. He looked skeptical, gave him a crooked half smile and moved to other gifts sitting in front of me. My grandfather died two days later from a sudden heart attack. Flannel shirts were the last gifts I have ever given. Regret the little thing I said when I had the chance “. Thank Grandpa That’s so thoughtful of you.”
“I am a good person who is worthy of my love and respect.” – Humans can survive a week without water, two weeks without food, many years homeless … but not lonely. It is the worst of all the agonies. And what is the worst kind of loneliness? The kind you can not escape – when you’re uncomfortable with yourself. The truth is that a partner or just a friend, it can add a lot of beauty to your life, but they can fill a void that exists within you. You alone are responsible for your satisfaction. If you feel hopelessly alone when you’re alone, do you mean that you are in bad company. This means that you have to work on your relationship with yourself first.
“I can not always win, but I can always learn and grow.” – Do not confuse poor decision-making with your own destiny. Buy your mistakes. IS OK; everyone does it. Learning from life experiences, so that they can strengthen! That which we call our destiny is really just our character, and that character can be enriched. The knowledge that you are responsible for your actions and attitudes should not be daunting, because it means that you are free to change your destiny. Yes, the past has shaped the feelings and perspectives, but this can be changed if you have the courage to re-examine how it formed. You can always alter the chemistry provided we have the courage to select items.
“It ‘s time to do something positive.” – The next time you feel like complaining, stop and ask yourself what you really want. You just want to complain or want to improve your situation? Somewhere within each complaint is a genuine desire to improve things, but the complaint itself is not enough to make it happen. So make the choice not to aggravate a bad situation with your complaints. Choose instead to improve it with your positive thoughts, ideas and actions.
“I can do this!” – The obstacle is never enough to stop. What is the firm belief that it can not overcome the obstacle. The problem is not that you’re too this or too that. The problem is that the release of perfect conditions that do not exist. The successes that actually occur in life happen in reality. The things that actually are made, they got in an imperfect world. No excuses for why you can not get done. Focus on all the reasons why must it happen. There will always be challenges. And there will always be things you can do to grow beyond them.
“Their situation is not mine.” – Honestly, you can save the majority of the people by themselves, so as not to get too deep sucked into their drama. Those who make the perpetual chaos of their lives do not like interfering with the excitement they have created, however. Do you want your sympathy “poor baby”, but do not want to change. They do not want their lives set by the user. They do not want their problems solved, their emotional addictions and distractions removed, their stories resolved or their messes cleaned. Why do they have left? I do not know and are not ready to know yet. It is not your job to tell them.
“I’m sorry” – In this life, when someone denies apology, remember to do when you find yourself begging for forgiveness. And if it just so happens often. Why? Why the guilt festers. Do not do this to yourself. Excuses are the best way to have the last word. The first to apologize is stronger, and the first to go on is the happiest. All the time. And of course, do not bother to apologize, if you’re going to keep doing the things you said sorry for. And say seriously. Look the person in the eye when I say and feel in my bones.
“I forgive you.” – A broken relationship that is repaired through forgiveness can be even stronger than it once was. But, of course, this is not always the case. So remember that forgiveness does not necessarily mean ending relationships healed. That’s not the point. Some relationships are not meant to be. Forgive me, however, for your own good and then let it meant to be, BE. Forgiveness allows you to focus on the future without a fight in the past. Without forgiveness, wounds can never be healed, and can not make progress. What has happened in the past is only a chapter. Do not close the book; Just turn the page.
“Now life is really good.” – Some people wait all day for 17, for the week to Friday, throughout the year for the holidays, their life with happiness. Do not be one of them. Do not wait until your life is almost over for realizing how good it was. Good life begins now, when you stop waiting for a better one.
Your turn …
Sit quietly with yourself and ask, “What ever regret to say, to those I love and myself?” Once you have it all figured out, has left us a comment below and let us know what you’re gonna say.